40 Christmas Questions for Couples, From Silly to Sentimental

30 October 2026

Here are 40 Christmas questions for couples, sorted from light and silly to warm and reflective, for long lunches, road trips to the in-laws or the quiet night after everyone’s gone home. Whether your Christmas is snow and roast dinners or prawns at the beach, pick a handful, take turns, and either of you can pass on anything.

TL;DR

• Start with the silly questions while the day’s still busy, and save the reflective ones for a quiet moment.
• Take turns, and let each person finish before the other responds.
• Either of you can pass, no explanation needed.
• Holidays bring up family stuff. Keep the tough questions for when you’re alone and rested.
• Want them on paper? Grab the free Date Night Question Pack.

Just for fun: silly Christmas questions

1. What’s the most questionable present you’ve ever been given?
2. Roast dinner or seafood on ice: which side are you on, and why are you wrong?
3. What’s the Christmas song you’d happily never hear again?
4. Which relative is most likely to start a debate at lunch this year?
5. What’s your most competitive Christmas game?
6. Real tree, fake tree or a pot plant with tinsel on it?
7. If we hosted Christmas with no rules, what would be on the menu?
8. What’s the worst Christmas jumper or shirt you’ve ever worn?
9. What’s a Christmas movie you’ll defend to the end?
10. What’s the latest you’ve ever wrapped a present?

Traditions: where we each come from

11. What did Christmas morning look like when you were a kid?
12. Which family tradition do you hope we keep?
13. Which one would you quietly let go of?
14. What’s a tradition from your family that surprised me?
15. What’s a new tradition you’d like us to start, just the two of us?
16. Whose family Christmas felt most like a film set, and whose felt most like chaos?
17. What does a “proper” Christmas mean to you?
18. Is there a Christmas you missed and still think about?
19. What’s the best present you ever gave someone?
20. What smell means Christmas to you?

Us, this year

21. What’s your favourite memory of us from this year?
22. When did you feel most supported by me this year?
23. What’s a hard week this year that we handled better than we expected?
24. What did I do this year that you never thanked me for?
25. What’s a small moment from this year you’d like to bottle?
26. What surprised you most about us this year?
27. What’s one thing you’d like more of between us next year?
28. How can I make the holidays easier for you?
29. What part of the holidays do you find hardest, and how can I help?
30. What would make this Christmas feel like ours, not just everyone else’s?

Looking ahead

31. Where would you love to spend a future Christmas?
32. What’s one adventure you want us to have next year?
33. What’s something you’d like us to learn together?
34. What’s one habit you’d like us to build as a couple?
35. What do you hope we’re celebrating this time next year?
36. What’s a gift that isn’t a thing that you’d love from me?
37. What’s one thing you want to say “no” to next year so we have more time?
38. Which friends do you want us to see more of?
39. What does a slow, perfect Boxing Day look like to you?
40. What do you want to remember about this Christmas?

Tips for asking them

Pick your moment. The silly ones work at a full table. The ones about us and the year ahead are better on a walk or at the end of the night.

Keep family talk kind. If a question about someone’s family touches a sore spot, it’s fine to park it for a calmer day.

Write one answer down. Reading it next Christmas is a lovely way to see how far you’ve come.

FAQ

What are good Christmas questions for couples?

Mix fun ones (worst gifts, songs, movies) with ones about traditions, the year you’ve had together and what you want from next year. Start light, then go deeper once you’re relaxed.

How do we have a good conversation when Christmas is so busy?

Save the deeper questions for a quiet time, like a drive, a late walk or the evening after the guests leave. A few good questions in a calm moment beat forty in a rush.

What if we spend Christmas apart?

Ask them over a video call, or swap answers by message through the day. Our long-distance relationship questions have more for couples apart over the holidays.

Let Candid do the asking

If you’d rather not scroll through a list, Candid is a private card game for two that does the asking for you: truths, dares and Desires, where you each pick privately and only the choices you both made are shown. Guided Mode paces a whole night with a limit you set together. Plenty is free, with no daily limit. Candid is on iPhone and iPad, for adults 18+.